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note #90 : talking in public and guilt-free rest
....but as you start facing your fears one by one, you'll soon realise how far you've come and feel nothing but pride.
I am writing this at 6 a.m. on Monday; it is a bank holiday on this side of the pond, and I am reflecting on the weekend. What a whirlwind.
Here’s a recap of Saturday:
4:00 am : woke up in London
5:00 am : finished getting ready
6:00 am : in the train, heading to Manchester.
9:00 am : writing and napping on the train
10:00 am : in the middle of preparing for the event
1:00 pm : end of first event and grabbed a bottle of water
1:30 pm : quick run and off to start the second event
4:00 pm : end of event and first sandwich of the day
5:00 pm: chatting with attendees and the community
6:00 pm : off to visit my friend Delyse, gave birth to Triplets
8:00 pm : on the train back to London
11:00 pm : back in London and heading home
1:00 am (Sunday ) : warm shower, tea and bed.
4:00 am : too tired to sleep, just finished watching “White men can’t jump”
5:00 am : play rain sounds and falls asleep
I don't think I've slept that long in a while—6 hours—but I did on Sunday. I was being passively lazy, so I edited a few shots in bed. I watched a couple of TV shows in bed. I posted a few pictures to Instagram while I was in bed. I called some people who were in bed. A nighttime stroll was all I did to see how well my legs were holding up.
This past weekend, I had a breakthrough in terms of personal development:
1. I overcame my own fears of speaking in public.
In the past three years, I have hosted around eighteen events despite the fact that I am not the most extroverted person around.
I still get nervous speaking in front of an audience, but I put on an act of confidence and forget my nerves a few minutes into the performance. Eventually, I find my rhythm and am able to get a few sentences out.
This is your reminder that facing your fears head-on is the only way to go forward; after all, what could possibly go wrong? It's possible that you won't get any sleep for a full day, but as you start facing your fears one by one, you'll soon realise how far you've come and feel nothing but pride.
Step by step, we accomplish our goals, and along the way, we build momentum and self-assurance in our abilities to complete the task at hand.
2. I earned my “guilt-free rest”
I have a hard time shutting off since I am constantly working, whether it be at my full-time job, my side hustle, or on projects for clients that have due dates and so need to be completed, and because of this, I find it difficult to rest.
No, I have no grounds for complaint. Having worked hard all day, I now enjoy what I like to term "guilt-free rest" after a hard day's work.
"Guilt-free rest"means relaxing without guilt or feeling obligated. It's about relaxing and recharging without guilt or pressure to be productive.
Relaxation used to seem unimportant, even counterproductive, when there were things to do. However, “earned rest” and self-care are essential for well-being and avoiding burnout.
My use of the term "earned rest" comes from the fact that resting for no reason at all can be a form of procrastination or even laziness.
So my guilt-free rest allows me to take pauses, relax, and enjoy rejuvenating activities. I get to embrace self-care instead of feeling bad about resting.
For now, I bid you farewell; have a wonderful week!
See you in the next one!